Connecting with Working Moms

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As a therapist, I have to always be conscious of countertransference. Over identifying is a caution we learned about in grad school, and during sessions I make sure to catch myself and keep it in check. Fighting with your spouse? Yep, been there. Concerned about your children? Always. Just plain hard on yourself? Often. The…

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Connecting with the Millenials

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Today I was a hypocrite.I stood in a long line waiting for a ticket while I watched the 20-something-year-old behind the desk chew his gum and work at a leisurely pace while several other employees walked by without offering any assistance. The other “older” people in line said things like “I’ve been waiting for 20…

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Connecting Now

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If I could go back in time, I would do a lot of things differently. The more I thought about this statement, the more I thought. From elementary school to high school… college… to being a wife, a friend, a sister… don’t even get me started on being a mother. We all have regrets. We…

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Connecting Over Sex

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Teenagers are having sex.  It almost feels inappropriate to write this.  Why?  They have been having sex for decades, centuries, so why would that feel inappropriate?  According to the CDC in 2011, almost 50% of teens have had sex.  That is a lot.  It is half of a high school.  Half of the Honors kids. …

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Connecting Pharmacologically

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Horse tranquilizers?  That is what kids will take today to get high?  Not only will they take Ketamine, but they have already given it the nickname of Special K, or just “K” for short.  While this drug is more regularly used on humans, adolescents know this drug as a horse tranquilizer and still continue to…

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Connecting With Teachers

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A new Harvard study has shown that the quality of teachers matters over the long term, leading to more earning potential, a greater likelihood of attending college, and even a decrease in teenage pregnancy. I read on, curious about what made these teachers “good”. Having previously worked in a school setting, I was not surprised…

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Connecting With Our Children

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I wish I had a dollar for every time a client said to me that my children are so fortunate to be parented by me. They have benefitted from my practical suggestions themselves and at times even marvel (to my delight!) at my wisdom. I then promptly remind them that when your heart is involved,…

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Connecting Through Grief

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We all know someone who has passed away, and we’ve all comforted someone who is grieving.  Our first experience with death stays with us.  Perhaps a grandparent or other older relative passed away.  We might notice someone wearing a ribbon or read an obituary that asks us to offer condolences.  As a therapist, I’ve run…

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Connecting Over Weed?

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“Weed”.  That is what they call it now.  I learned very quickly in my private practice that if I were going to talk with teenagers about their drug use, I had to stop saying “pot”.  And “smoke” usually means smoke marijuana, where in my youth that meant actual cigarettes.  I still feel funny when I…

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Helppro.com Blog Submission: Does Your Therapist Like You?

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I was asked to submit another blog to helppro.com’s website.  You can read my discussion below, or find it at: http://www.helppro.com/Blog/post/2011/02/22/Does-Your-Therapist-Like-You-One-Therapists-Perspective.aspx Most professionals in the helping profession chose their job purposefully.  We enjoy helping, listening, and problem solving.  I found an online quiz that supposedly determines if one would make a good therapist.  It asked…

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