Connecting Parentally (Part 1- the younger years)

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Years ago, I learned from many of you (or from many of your children), that two qualities were necessary when raising children. That was being predictable, and consistent. I had seen firsthand through my work as a therapist what inconsistency and unpredictable behaviors could do to somebody. You had shared examples from your own childhood,…

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Connecting Considerately

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Connecting Considerately IF dyad is defined by Webster’s Dictionary as pair; specifically, two individuals (such as husband and wife) maintaining a sociologically significant relationship, THEN, are you (choose as many as apply): 1. Part of a dyad 2. Previously part of a dyad 3. Hoping to be part of a dyad 4. Unhappy in your…

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Connecting Over Books (2)

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There’s a lot of information out there.  Some of it is right, some of it is sort of right, and some of it is not just wrong, but dangerous.  This article explores what we have been seeing in our office with self-diagnosing and not just self-diagnosing, but identifying, and even more deliberately celebrating, with a…

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Connecting with Love and Happiness

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Love… It is such a short word that requires a rich vocabulary. In the book The Art of Loving, Erich Fromm discusses how the practice of this “art” is highly personal and not a goal with steps He talks about the need for discipline, concentration, patience, supreme concern, and that you also need to be…

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Connecting Through Communication

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Back to school… This time of year is a relief for some and a dread for others. I never put a feeling to it before I dropped my oldest at college, and now it comes with all sorts of emotions. As I think about school, I am thinking about all that our kids, however old…

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Connecting with Men

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Another month/season is flying past us! Each one brings everyone new challenges. Lately, we’ve seen adult men-both single and in family relationships- facing the challenges of post-Covid life. According to a May article in the New York Times “traditional” male characteristics of stoicism, competitiveness, and aggressiveness, for example, may be what’s creating the phenomena of…

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Connecting Anew

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Are you one of “those” people who say sorry and move on? In my work, I have noticed the different styles and when it comes to saying the words “I’m Sorry”, there are certainly types. There’s even a love language version of apologies. Apologies are complicated because it’s not just about you. Many of us…

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