Posts by Lynn Zakeri
Connecting With What You Can Control
Connecting With What You Can Control…and feeling capable again Something about Spring has us paying attention (Spring Cleaning got its name from something!). We can start noticing what isn’t working and start asking better questions, like “what am I actually in charge of here?”. Let’s talk about three places where you actually have influence: your sleep,…
Read MoreConnecting Socially
Connecting Socially: Why Relationships and Presence Matter We keep hearing about loneliness, but it isn’t just that. We’re under-connected… and it’s making us anxious! What do I mean? A theme we are hearing in therapy inquiries run along the lines of: Nobody really knows me; I was in a group but I felt so cloudy…
Read MoreConnecting Autotelically
Connecting Autotelic(ly) I learned a new word. Because somebody recommended a book to me by Andy Clark, I have been learning more about how our experiences predict and often determine our reality. The book encourages people to appreciate experiences for their own sake—without depending on how they feel about the outcome. What if you were…
Read MoreConnecting Over Books (the list of 2024)
The List of 2024 Books Recommended by a Therapist
Read MoreConnecting in 2025
It’s New Years….. What is new for you?
Read MoreConnecting Parentally (Part 3 of 3)
The third/final in the parenting series- Where we are, and where we are going (and some tips!)
Read MoreConnecting Parentally (Part 2 of 3)
Are you a young adult or the parent of one? It’s not surprising that we are reading and hearing about generational differences, generational patterns, and boundaries. We’ve been empowering our kids and now what… “Failure to launch” became a common term only 20 years ago and of course there are young adults who are confused…
Read MoreConnecting Parentally (Part 1- the younger years)
Years ago, I learned from many of you (or from many of your children), that two qualities were necessary when raising children. That was being predictable, and consistent. I had seen firsthand through my work as a therapist what inconsistency and unpredictable behaviors could do to somebody. You had shared examples from your own childhood,…
Read MoreThe Happiness Connection— 14 years later
Are we happy again? Are you?
What is happy?
In 2010 I wrote my first blog, and coming back to this, post-COVID, post life changes, post so many changes for all of us, myself included, does it still ring true?
Read MoreConnecting (Emotionally) Intelligently
What is your word? I chose mine for a few reasons.
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